This was written by me last night / early this morning –
Parkland and America in Mourning –
I watched the burial today from one of the JROTC students as his casket was being un-draped by the American flag to be lowered into the ground. I tweeted a reply on the tweet with its video clip of it – These children should not be there. It is so wrong. – without saying the fifty other things my mind could see that this young man and all the others killed in Parkland should be alive today doing, walking through their lives, not laying in a casket gone to all of us and their families. It should not have ever been this for their lives.
And what does it matter what I say, on another day from this one, another young man disenfranchised and emotionally charged beyond our help will choose to do it this way again, just as they already have done in our country’s not so distant past several times over.
Is it fair to blame it on the emotional characteristics of our differences or on the weapons used? Even with everything to provide background checks, illegal guns and ammunition are bought – and other kinds of weapons made by those who choose to do this.
But it didn’t start to happen in an instant. These young men who have committed these mass shootings didn’t start the day before or a week before the event.
Often mental health systems and drugs were already in their lives and in use by them even when they committed these horrors. Did those make it worse or more likely?
Was everything we’ve put in place basically useless to help these young men do something else instead, long before they came to this point? Obviously, yes.
Is it right to blame video games or guns or mental illness as the cause when so very many people, including young men have all of these things and never commit some horrific killing rampage on anyone?
Do we really not have anything effective in place to give people the skills and the emotional wherewithal to work through their personal crises any better than this and long before they start buying every weapon they can get their hands on with the constant fantasy of using them? Really? Is that where we are?
That nothing constructive with any real positive force comes close enough to them for this path to be veered off or guided into something more productive, practical and constructive for them and for us? Is that where we are and the best we can do?
Answers At All?
It must be obvious that people engaged in the building of their lives and the real possibilities of their dreams coming to fruition, do not need nor desire to go get a gun and start shooting people.
And, especially when their energies and their goals can be realized in practical ways with their efforts applied to do so – people engage in these constructive types of activities and work on these efforts rather than fulfilling some violent, get back at the world scenario.
But, when every avenue is thwarted or not producing expected results time after time after time and, nor are the possibilities of those efforts being able to achieve any of those things to build one’s life and dreams, what are people going to do? What can be realistically expected for people to do besides becoming in some way destructive, rather than constructive especially as those energies continue to be thwarted or utilized with no success at all?
What happens to the one who is desperate to be loved, who lives in a world today where no real connections are possible with others and no opportunities exist for them to build a jointly beneficially loving and supportive interaction with others – what then? Where do those energies go after repeatedly failing to make any opportunities for connections, for love, support, friendship or belonging?
What happens to the one who wants and needs to earn a living and there is thwarted as well, in the exclusiveness of that because of the way America is today? What then?
What happens to the one longing for respect and status where the world as it is now in America offers little to no opportunities to build and get those either, unless being born into wealth has given an unnatural step towards those doors of options?
What happens to the one wanting to have a house to call home, not as an investment property – but a real home where today, nearly all houses cost far beyond the wages offered by any but a few jobs that are beyond what most people can get? And in every business and industry, even more of those opportunities are disappearing to automation, business decisions to restructure and close business operations. Add to that, the thousands of jobs being lost or taken by the numerous bankruptcies that our businesses and industries continue to have which are taking those jobs away in great numbers, continuing to take factories out of our country and giving massive bonuses to executives and shareholders while laying off workers and stagnating or even, lowering wages and benefits to employees.
What happens in our nation where communities are no longer real communities anymore but simply a lot of houses in one place where people live and drive their cars into and out of, to shop at stores nearby and eat out but where rarely, if ever, find it socially appropriate to even speak to one another, let alone to engage long enough to build real and lasting friendships.
What happens where nearly every single person who wants to have a marriage, a home together with someone and build a life together is thwarted at every moment and with every attempt to make that happen by the new constraints of our society’s disconnections from one another generally? What then?
My Daughter Read This and Said – Yeah, but There Aren’t Any Solutions You Give –
And sometimes, I really do think up ways to help, share them on this blog and other places, even help get those things put into practice so they work, but today I am acutely aware of what many people in similar situations to mine are experiencing – this covers my thoughts on it today –
I’ve worked and worked hard for a long time getting absolutely nowhere with no real results from it that can provide for me. And, I’ve helped others along the way – as sometimes as well, people have helped me.
But I have discovered this also and I’ve been ignoring it from others for a long time – which is the prevailing attitude in America right now, as well as in my own family and communities which expresses what I’m hearing explained to me when I need to get any help – (from those who could help) – and my comments about it –
Explain To Me How These Attitudes Help Anybody – That is My Question
So, you don’t want to help a person who IS TRYING – and especially if they’ve been trying to accomplish something to help themselves for a long time and failing.
And, you don’t want to help a person who IS NOT TRYING – and especially if they’ve never even showed that they are trying to help themselves or have given up.
BUT, you claim to be a person who wants to help. What are the determining factors on that help?
You DON’T want to help anyone who needs it, because they are needy – why bother.
You DON’T want to help anyone who doesn’t need it, because there would be no point to your helping.
AND, unless the needy person who needs some help: looks, acts and speaks like they don’t need it, you aren’t about to help them either.
Oh wait – if they look like they don’t need help – you wouldn’t help them anyway.
That about says it.
Now, I’m saying it back to you –
Fix it your own damn self.
- Cricketdiane, 02-21-2018